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Aug. 22nd, 2008

11:51 am - A Minute a Day Makes Good Feelings Grow

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A Minute a Day Makes Good Feelings Grow

Fine, I thought. I’ve used one-minute timings with children for reading and math for nine years now. If it works for them, I’m willing to try anything no matter how crazy it sounds. I’ve been to the Lands of Crazy and Depression and, while it’s fuel for writing, I didn’t like it in either place. What’s the worst that could happen? It wouldn’t work. But it was worth a try for two weeks. Each morning for the next two weeks I wrote for one minute as many self-positives as I could, anything I could think, remember, had been previously told, whether or not I felt it during that minute.

Bingo! For the next two weeks, my good feelings ranged from seven a day to forty and the bad feelings dropped from a high of seven on the first day to a low of zero – staying between zero and two. The negative thoughts went from 75 the first day to three! Happy birthday, Robert! I shall stop looking for reasons to argue, stop trying to sabotage my marriage.

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From:evillinn
Date:August 22nd, 2008 07:08 pm (UTC)
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This is interesting to me, as I've been thinking about something not unrelated. I've been having these odd pangs of guilt over the fact that I'm as happy as I am these days. My life is *good*. My job, my home, my relationship, my education, my life is good in practically every way. I know that while my friends are happy for me, there are a few that struggle with the things in their own lives on a rather constant basis. I love them and want them to be happy, but I can never quite figure out how to support or encourage them in their pursuits.
I've been reminding myself that my happiness is something I've worked hard to nurture. Happiness isn't something that generally "just happens". A person has to be quick to recognize the little things, has to be quick to accept the little rewards and achievements along the path to the larger ones. A person has to learn to let the hard stuff roll off their backs as quickly as possible.
It all sounds so trite that in my desire to be supportive of those I love, I hesitate to reiterate these things. I also know that it simply doesn't work this way for many. There are chemical imbalances that cause depression or other problems, there is a life time if deep-rooted cynicism or doubt, there are any number of difficulties. But I think for many of us, we can be more in control of our happiness than we tend to be.
I suspect this subject is closely connected to the fact that counseling and mental health care are still taboo subjects. Our culture tends to think of our mental and emotional health as simply being what it is. We have no problem seeing a doctor for a broken leg or problem with our blood, kidney or eyes. But for some reason we believe help for a brain that isn't doing what we want it to isn't as acceptable. Bizarre.

Anyway. I seem to be in a really chatty mood and your post prompted it!!
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From:crasch
Date:August 22nd, 2008 09:36 pm (UTC)
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I've been having these odd pangs of guilt over the fact that I'm as happy as I am these days.

Heh. The brain's a wiley beast, isn't it?

But I think for many of us, we can be more in control of our happiness than we tend to be.

I agree. For me, I've discovered that happiness is correlated with:

* outings with friends and family
* vigorous exercise (Crossfit, dancing)
* productivity (meeting my work goals)
* stable, loving relationship

But for some reason we believe help for a brain that isn't doing what we want it to isn't as acceptable.

I think it's because people believe that our brains are "who we are". Therefore, if there is something wrong with our brains, there is something wrong with us.

Edited at 2008-08-22 09:51 pm (UTC)
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From:radiantsun
Date:August 22nd, 2008 11:12 pm (UTC)
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Thanks for the link, this is awesome!
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