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Jul. 25th, 2007

02:44 pm - Albert Ellis dead

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Albert Ellis, whose innovative straight-talk approach to psychotherapy made him one of the most influential and provocative figures in modern psychology, died yesterday at his home above the institute he founded in Manhattan. He was 93.

This anecdote was particularly helpful to me:

But at 19 he was painfully shy and eager to change his behavior. In one exercise he staked out a bench in a park near his home, determined to talk to every woman who sat there alone. In one month, he said, he approached 130 women.

“Thirty walked away immediately,” he said in the Times article. “I talked with the other 100, for the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was. Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops.”

Though he got only one date as a result, his shyness disappeared, he said. He similarly overcame a fear of speaking in public by making himself do just that, over and over. He became an accomplished public speaker.

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From:ladykalana
Date:July 25th, 2007 10:17 pm (UTC)
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Wow, that's a pretty awesome way of going about it. I wouldn't have wanted to be woman #1 though, how painful it must have been!
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From:denshi
Date:July 26th, 2007 12:49 am (UTC)
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The forefront of basic research is always painful!
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From:evelynne
Date:July 25th, 2007 11:49 pm (UTC)
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I like the park bench idea. I did a variation of that in college, except that what I did beforehand was pay attention to how more socially adept people interacted (including how they struck up conversations with me). That helped a hell of a lot, since it gave me a template to start with.
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From:rillifane
Date:July 26th, 2007 01:59 am (UTC)
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I used Dr. Ellis' methods on exactly the same problems when I was in high school and they worked like a charm.

A great man with a real talent for cutting thru the bullshit.
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From:plantgirl
Date:July 26th, 2007 04:40 am (UTC)
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My father studied with him for a year, ages ago, when it was still the Institute for Rational Emotive Therapy, and not the Albert Ellis Institute. I met him a few times. He's an interesting man. It's unfortunate that he was so very ill for the last year or so of his life, and that it was marked by so much dissension within the REBT community.
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From:deftly
Date:July 26th, 2007 04:04 pm (UTC)
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All I need now is a park bench.
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