January 8th, 2010
As a practical matter, I'm only going to be at any one of them only rarely, if at all, during the week. So I don't think that a visa program would necessarily boost their costs that much. Anyone else interested in this?
Dojo as part of the Global Ignite Week.
http://ignite.oreilly.com/giw/ In the ignite version of lightning
talks, a speaker has 5 minutes to give a talk with 20 slides that
advance automatically every 15 seconds.
Our [HackerDojo] event will be Ignite Silicon Valley, held on March 4th,
complementing Ignite San Francisco on March 2nd.
I should have the event's website and more details up within the week.
Start thinking about what talks you might want to present!"
About the 'The Hacker Fair'
'The Hacker Fair' is an event for talented developers to showcase their skills for companies who are hiring.
January 16th, 2010 from 10am - 1pm
140 South Whisman Road, Mountain View, CA.
At the Hacker Fair, the job seekers are the ones giving demonstrations, and the recruiters are the ones walking around. Think of it as a "science fair" where the "science projects" are the developers' personal and side projects, the "judges" are recruiters, and the "prizes" are interviews and hopefully job offers!
The most intriguing was a study by Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York, who wanted to see how long takes to feel a really deep romantic connection with someone. So he got in some guys and girls, and in the space of an hour tried to create intimacy levels that typically take months or years to form. It was called the 'Sharing Game' - a sheet of 36 questions was presented to the participants, and they had to ask and answer them with their assigned partner. Both had to answer the questions out loud, to each other, and in the manner of a conversation. Here are some of the questions:
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
- Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
- What would constitute the "perfect" day for you?
- When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
- If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
- Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
- Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the
way you are living now? Why?
- What roles do love and affection play in your life?
- Share an embarrassing moment from your life.
- When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
- What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
The Lock and Key Encounter is a very interactive social mixing game where each person tries to find their matching hardware amongst the group of participants. It works like this . . . Every female attendee receives a lock. Every male attendee receives a key. The object is to find the Lock that fits the Key and the Key that fits the Lock! For two hours, you try and meet each person at the event, getting to know them and of course, trying to match the lock and key. The object is to find as many -Matches- as possible. When you find a Match, you'll visit the Lock and Key Station, there you'll both enter your names into the Prize Drawing! Then you'll receive new Locks and Keys, and you'll go out again to try your new Hardware and find additional Matches. The more Matches that you find, the more times your name is entered into the Prize Drawing.
When I was in acting school back in college, we had an entire class for two whole semesters that was based on one exercise -- Repetition, created by Sanford Meisner. I suppose I don't have to stress how useful our teachers thought this exercise was since they made us take two semesters' worth of classes on it. The exercise itself was fairly simple: You would sit across from your partner, look them in the eyes, and say something that was true about them. They would then say something to you that was true about you (or, if they couldn't think of something to say in time to keep with the rhythm of the exercise, they could repeat back what you had said about them and you could go back and forth until someone noticed something else true about the other person). And you would both continue on in this manner.
So it sounded something a little like this:
A. You're wearing a blue shirt.
B. I'm wearing a blue shirt.
A. You dress well.
B. I dress well.
A. You dress well.
B. You're being nice.
A. You're smiling.
B. I'm smiling.
A. You're happy that I'm being nice.
B. I'm happy that you're being nice.
A. You're happy that I'm being nice.
B. You're laughing.
A. I'm laughing.
B. You think something's funny.
Someday I will hold a Repetition class for people who want to study seduction. I'm pretty sure no other exercise could be as useful as this is. Yeah, it sounds dumb when you're reading it, but bear with me.
What's great about what happens in Repetition is that since you have to keep observing the other person, not only do you notice how quickly their state changes as each moment passes, but you also learn how to evaluate the meanings behind those states. As an example, in the above exchange, "You're smiling" quickly means "You're happy." "You're laughing" quickly means "You think something's funny." Now these are very obvious conclusions, but as you keep repeating with the same partner for sometimes hours at a time, those conclusions begin to run deeper. You will notice the slightest twinge in the eyebrows and you will state it out loud and then realize the truth behind it. "You're furrowing your brow. You're deciding whether you're slightly annoyed. You didn't like what I said." Of course the moment you notice it, the moment has already passed and there's a new truth: "You're smiling now. You don't want to come off like you were annoyed. You want me to see you as friendly." Or whatever.
When two couples interact in an intense, self-disclosing fashion, rapid expansion of the self may be especially strong after the initial exhilaration of a new relationship starts to fade. Take, for example, relationship partners who have been dating for a year and have become more and more accustomed to each other as their relationship has progressed. The two people, once very fresh and exciting to each other, seem less and less novel and self-expansion slows or comes to a halt. At this point, people may become bored and dissatisfied in their relationship (Aron & Aron, 1986). For long-term couples, intense self-disclosure with another couple may be sufficiently novel and arousing enough to lead to increased positive affect and, in turn, heightened feelings of closeness toward one’s partner..."